What does it really mean to love more than one person at a time with everyone’s knowledge and consent? How do you build relationships that are intentional instead of default? And what’s the difference between a boundary, an agreement, and a rule?
In this episode of The Sanctuary, Heidi, a therapist, polyamory coach, and the voice behind Steady Polyamory, shares her personal journey into polyamory, which began in a marriage that wasn’t working and evolved into a relationship structure she’s maintained for over a decade. She opens up about why she loves polyamory beyond the obvious benefits, including the freedom to let relationships unfold authentically and the joy of cheering on a partner’s new connection.
Heidi breaks down essential frameworks for healthy relationships: regular check-ins, reducing defensiveness in tough conversations, and the empowering distinction between boundaries (decided within yourself) and agreements (mutually created with buy-in). She also tackles the controversial topic of hierarchy, offering a nuanced take on why pretending it doesn’t exist is more harmful than acknowledging it.
Whether you’re poly-curious, already practising, or just fascinated by the psychology of relationships, this episode offers a masterclass in communication, consent, and intentional love.